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Facebook: Is posting photographs of your children on Facebook a parenting concern?

I was reading through recent British Columbia Supreme Court  judgments and I came across the case of Bain v. Bain.

In this decision, the Honorable Mr. Justice Crawford addressed a mother’s concern about her former husband posting pictures of their daughters on Facebook.  Mr. Justice Crawford stated at paragraph 16:

 As well, there have been concerns about Mr. Bain’s parenting.

He has made available on the internet by way of Facebook, pictures of the children in their very early years. There is a danger of publishing such pictures in this day and age, which should be apparent to any parent, let alone the father of two small daughters. Therefore, there shall be this order:

Mr. Bain shall forthwith remove from Facebook, and any other public medium, any and all pictures and references, comments or written words regarding the children.

When I was reading this decision I noted that:

  • We do not have an idea or description of the nature of the pictures posted on Facebook;
  • Mr. Bain did not attend the hearing; and
  • Justice Crawford did indicate some problems with Ms. Bain’s affidavit evidence.

I mention the above points because they indicate that there might have been another side to the story (no one was there to advocate on behalf of Mr. Bain or put his point of view forward).

It is also interesting that the reasons for judgment set out a series of incidents indicating poor judgment on the part of Mr. Bain (not just the Facebook pictures) – can the [lack of] judgment used in posting the  of the Facebook pictures be inferred from the rest of the  communication/conduct on the part of Mr. Bain that is described?

So – is posting pictures of children on Facebook a parenting concern?

In some circumstances I think it is appropriate to post family pictures on Facebook.

I have posted pictures of other people`s kids in my Facebook albums (for example at my wedding) – should I take these down?

Many of my  friends and relatives have children – they are wonderful parents and frequent Facebook “kid-pic” posters.  Posting pictures on Facebook seems to be commonly used instead of mailing out school pictures or family portraits – how else would we get to see our nieces and nephews across the country celebrate their Birthday (maybe the event could be broadcast to the extended family over Skype…?).

Obviously the decisions to post pictures of children on Facebook/the internet are an individual decision for parents.  For example, one of my good friends who had a baby over the Christmas break e-mailed out a newborn picture to our group of friends and said “Dad says only clothed pics of Baby on the net”.

My general thought on this is as follows:

  • Adjust your privacy settings to make sure that only people who are close friends/family can see pictures of your kids;
  • If you are not able to adjust your privacy settings – remove the photographs of your kids from Facebook (do you really want random strangers seeing your photos?);
  • Avoid posting pictures that will cause the children personal humiliation to them later in life (when the are a teenager) and remember:
George Takei

“This picture was copied from the Facebook page of someone I don`t know, George Takei, without his permission or knowledge“

Do you think it is appropriate to post pictures of children on Facebook…?  If so, what are the restrictions and limitations you use when deciding what to post?